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FACT: You can’t buy a wife from RussianLoveMatch

I will be honest, there have been women who I wanted even after they said they felt that things wouldn’t work out. Did this upset me, yeah! A few times I even emailed them and asked them to expand their reasoning as to why they were not interested in me as I was interested in them. Sometimes they replied, sometimes not.

The true scam to me would be if this frustrating event NEVER happened. I have talked to several guys over the last month who were angry that women on RLM / HRB wouldn’t agree to meeting with them, were unwilling to talk dirty in chat, undress on cam, or expressed disinterest in other ways. “How DARE she!?! I’m a paying member!”

Well, what are you paying for? All the men I talk to usually say they want the same things up front- a good honest woman with old fashioned values that will love and care for them- but when you get down to brass tacks sometimes it seems like a few of them want to pick a picture and order a woman to their doorstep, whether the woman wants them or not.

I have heard complaints from other users that they think the women on RussianLoveMatch / HotRussianBrides are paid to chat, but it is these SAME people who say RussianLoveMatch is a scam that complain that the women won’t do what they want when they want, and that the women should do what they tell them BECAUSE THEY ARE PAYING MEMBERS. Where is the logic in that?

“Mailorder Brides” is a myth, and if you could order a mail order bride I wouldn’t want one. I want a real human being with real emotions and independent thoughts. Women from Russia are marvelously educated, sharp witted, and excellent conversationalists… if this doesn’t intrigue you maybe you are looking in the wrong place. Do you want a REAL woman or do you want a blow up doll? 

Did these men buy these women? No, they didn’t. How much would a company like Russian Love Match have to pay out to a woman to marry and have children with a man if she didn’t really love him, would being in a loveless marriage be any different or better for her than what she could already have in her home country? Could you put a pricetag on that? And if it did come with a price, would you be willing to pay? I think you should ask yourselves a personal question- is happiness just being with a woman or is happiness being with a woman who really loves you?

For the life of me I just can’t understand how you can believe women are paid to like you and then get upset when a woman doesn’t like you and say she must like you because you are willing to pay?


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Should womens photos be restricted?

This is a follow up to an offline discussion I had with someone from one of the boards in regards to “sexy” photos on women’s profiles.

Mike feels that women who post sexy or revealing photos are scammers. His argument is that no woman who is seriously looking for love or would ever post such pics and these women are only out to scam and are somehow being paid to chat and post photos.

To give a little background on “Mike”, he’s a gentleman much like myself, in the over 40 crowd, though to be honest I think Mike may be closer to 50. Mike likes to chat with younger women, in the 18 to 20 age group, were I myself focus on women 24 to 35. It’s a personal preference, but in my opinion the few years we differ in the age range we seek makes a considerable difference in our experiences searching for Russian Women.

I disagree with my friend. First off, I have travelled to the FSU and have met women who have had sexy photos and those who have not. I will say that not a single woman I chose to meet has ever asked me for money one way or the other. I had dinner with a beautiful young woman in Odessa who had several sexy bikini pictures taken on the coast of Crimea. Our date was intellectually stimulating but we didn’t click. She did not ask me to buy her gifts, she did not try to get me to take her shopping, and she didn’t go crazy and order a bottle of expensive wine at dinner.  After we parted we remain friends, we email and chat on occasion. I sent her flowers this past Women’s Day in March, after we met- and not because she asked, but because I think she’s a beautiful person and in my mind it was the right and polite thing to do.

Secondly how is a woman posting enticing pictures who wants to attract an ideal mate doing something unnatural? Are there not hundreds of thousands of women in America doing the same thing? I cannot think of a larger meat market than Myspace. Are all the women posting sexy pictures on myspace scam artists as well? When I go to a singles bar should I assume the same thing? Is the bar paying the women to wear low cut tops and short skirts? Why is it acceptable for women in America and not so for women in Russia and Ukraine?

I think a woman’s outer beauty is part of what attracts us all at first, and anyone who says otherwise is lying. When choosinga woman to meet in person I think after several emails and chats you can tell which women are serious and which or not. If someone wants to filter their search and exclude women with sexy pictures from his contacts, I feel that is his choice. I think to censor the photos a women chooses to upload to her profile, or to ban women who post revealing photos of themselves is preposterous!

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